“The next time you want to withhold your help, or your love, or your support for another for whatever the reason, ask yourself a simple question: do the reasons you want to withhold it reflect more on them or on you? And which reasons do you want defining you forevermore?”
― Dan Pearce, Single Dad Laughing
We serve constantly. It’s part of the fabric of being alive.
We serve as parents, as husbands and wives, as friends, in our occupations, whether we are employees, or homemakers, or business owners. Serving characterizes our relationships with one another as followers of Christ, part of a body, a community. And we are called to serve one another, following the example of Christ.
And his metaphor of washing feet is hard to beat.
“Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you.”
And no more pedestals. No more worldly systems of authority. Serve the Jesus way.
“Jesus called them together and said, ’You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, and whoever wants to be first must be your slave– just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.’” — Matthew 20:25-28
Cole Ryan picks up the concept of “serving the Jesus way” in regard to dating:
“Being a ‘gentleman’ goes way beyond holding the door for a girl and letting her go first all the time. It’s about truly serving her. I think when it comes to the way we should treat women, it’s a good idea to look to the way Jesus treated women. He laid his life down for His bride. He sacrificed His life for her, He lowered Himself for her. We must love women sacrificially in the same way that Jesus loved His bride sacrificially. Being a gentleman is about more than just being caring and thoughtful, it’s about possessing sacrificial and selfless Christ-like characteristics. I don’t even know if it’s possible to be a gentleman without knowing and possessing the character of Jesus.”
― Cole Ryan, Dear Guys: A New Way To Date