Socrates is credited with the old saying: “Strong minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, weak minds discuss people.”
How would your life be different if…You walked away from gossip and verbal defamation? Let today be the day…You speak only the good you know of other people and encourage others to do the same.
Isn’t it kind of silly to think that tearing someone else down builds you up?
Reputation is what others think of us; character is what God knows of us. When you have spent what feels like eternity trying to repair a few moments of time that destroyed the view others once had of you then you must ask yourself if you have the problem or is it really them? God doesn’t make us try so hard, only enemies do.
“How much time he gains who does not look to see what his neighbour says or does or thinks, but only at what he does himself, to make it just and holy.”
― Marcus Aurelius,
Strange how no one gossips about other people’s secret virtues.
The Bible is full of admonitions to restrain the flow of loose talk. As James said “If someone thinks he is religious yet does not bridle his tongue, and so deceives his heart, his religion is futile.” (James 1:26)
Futile! It means “a waste of time.”
Here’s a collection of snippets from the book of Proverbs:
In the abundance of words transgression is not lacking;
but the one who refrains his lips is wise (Proverbs 10:19).
The shrewd person conceals knowledge,
but the heart of fools publicizes foolishness (Proverbs 12:23).
The person who is knowledgeable restrains his words,
and one who has discernment has a cool spirit (Proverbs 17:27).
A fool takes no pleasure in understanding
but rather in disclosing what is on his mind (Proverbs 18:2).
The one who guards his mouth and his tongue
keeps his life from troubles (Proverbs 21:23).
Do you see someone who is hasty in his words?
There is more hope for a fool than for him (Proverbs 29:20).
And here’s a profound insight from the pen of Amy Carmichael
“Prayer is the core of our day. Take prayer out, and the day would collapse, would be pithless, a straw blown in the wind. But how can you pray–really pray, I mean–with one against who you have a grudge or whom you have been discussing critically with another? Try it. You will find it cannot be done.”
Lord, today, make me a builder and not a demolisher. Help me to weigh my words and to say the things that help and heal, and not those things that criticize or judge. And when I hear stuff, help me to restrain from passing it on, but let it rest (and die) in the silence of my own praying heart.